5 ways ditch the life plan + start living



Ok, I’m getting a bit personal in today’s post, but I really I want to open up about my journey and reflect on how dramatically things have changed from 2 years ago. And most importantly I want to share the biggest lesson I’ve learnt: that it’s ok NOT to have a life plan and by that I mean, it’s ok not to plan out every detail of your life – months + years in advance.

Life is filled with so many surprises and can be amazing if you let it – but this magic is something I’ve never fully experienced before, because until recently, I had already planned out every major decision in my life.

From my early 20’s I had a pretty definite plan on how my life was supposed to turn out + the time frames in which it needed to happen in – it went roughly something like this….

+ Finish university degree
+ Find a good job
+ Get married
+ Buy a house
+ Have babies

I got up to the ‘get married’ part, but when this unexpectedly ended, my world was thrown into chaos and I’d felt like I’d had a rug ripped out from beneath me. Things definitely didn’t turn out the way I planned + I had no grounding or safe place to fall.

As shit as this was at the time, it was also a complete blessing in disguise.

Since I made conscious decision to let go of any plan and rather be led by my gut and what I knew would make me happy, life has grown and expanded into something I could only describe as pretty freaking awesome….

In the space of just 6 months I’ve…
+ Quit my corporate job + landed my first and subsequent freelancing clients, with no marketing, website or business cards – it has simply been word of mouth.
+ Launched my first entrepreneurial endeavour – My Nourish Box.
+ Met my soulmate + fell deeply in love.
+ Booked a month of travelling + living in US with my love where I’ll also be attending two blogging conferences.

Every single one these things involved my taking a risk and stepping outside my little world of comfort.

Over-planning simply means we’re scared about giving up control and are instead being driven by a need for certainty of the outcome. This is all well and good in some specific circumstances, but when you’re running your entire life like this it’s bloody exhausting and you’re not allowing things to flow or naturally evolve.


Here are 5 ways to ditch the life plan + start living –

1. Focus on doing what will make you happy. 
Pretty simple really, but its amazing how often we will make decisions based on anything other than what will make us happy. We let ourselves be guided by other people’s expectations or feeling obligated to do something, but making decisions based on this is a fools game – no one wins – especially not you! Choose to let YOUR happiness come first.

2. Let your faith be bigger than your fear.
Surrender and have faith in yourself that you are strong enough to handle any challenge that will come your way. You don’t need all of the answers now; trust they will come when the time is right.

3. Let go of expectations.
Detaching yourself from the outcome of circumstances will give you the freedom to let things naturally evolve. Instead, commit to being fully present in each moment as this is the only part of our life we have any control over.

4. Declare your intentions.
Where your intention goes, your energy flows. Focus on what your over arching intentions are and let them serve as a guide for where you want to be.

5. Realise that there is no such thing as a ‘bad’, ‘wrong’ or ‘right’ decision.
Yep, this is the truth. No matter what choice you make, there is no such thing as a bad, wrong or right decision. It can only be the right decision for you and whatever path you take, you will learn more about yourself, what you want and what you don’t want that will only serve in your future decision making. Choose to look at things as an adventure, which really is what life is about!

When was the last time you said ‘screw the plan’? How did it turn out?

Rachel xx

P.S In light of this year being so pivotal, I’m going through a re-vamp of this site to make it more aligned with where I’m at; plus make it easier to use so you can find content you’re looking for! The new design will be going up in the next week, so if things are quiet in between now + then it’s because I’m busily working on getting this ready in the background. See you soon!


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  • http://tipsywriter.com/ Megan | TipsyWriter.com

    I am so flippin’ proud of you!

    • http://rachelgadiel.com/ Rachel // One Beautiful Life

      Oh thanks honey!!! You’re awesome :-) Need to drop you an email as well, I’m coming to SF! xx

  • http://www.soulomamma.com/ Lisa Jane Humphries

    I LOVE this xx It is so very true and by sharing I hope that others who are feeling trapped by their ‘life plans’ will be able to experience the freedom of no expectations, faith and surrender!!

    • http://rachelgadiel.com/ Rachel // One Beautiful Life

      Thank you so much Lisa! I really wanted to share my experience in the hope it would help anyone else in a similar situation feeling stuck or trapped. I had felt like this for years thinking there were no options, but realised I was the one holding myself back. It’s hard to make the change, but so, so worth it – I can’t recommend it highly enough! It’s all about having faith in yourself + surrendering everything else – an incredibly liberating feeling! xx

  • http://27thandluxe.blogspot.com/ Keiz

    Such an inspirational story! And very timely for me as I’m feeling trapped! Congratulations on all of your recent accomplishments since you’ve stepped outside of your comfort zone. I’m excited to see the new site!

    • http://rachelgadiel.com/ Rachel // One Beautiful Life

      I’m glad this was so timely for your Keiz! When we’re feeling trapped its because we don’t feel we have the power to change our circumstances, but we absolutely do! Even if you can’t change the situation overnight, break it down over a period of time and then slowly but surely, being guided by your intentions you will get where you want to be. Believe me, none of this happened overnight for me – but I set my intentions and worked my way towards them over time. Just keep focusing your energy on where you want to be. Hope this helps! xx

  • http://lovely-letters.com Lovely Letters

    SUCH a great list of accomplishments! Must have been an insanely busy 6 months. I so look forward to the revamp of your site and for the upcoming successes that you’ll be documenting!

    What conferences are you going to?

    xx Katie
    lovely letters

    • http://rachelgadiel.com/ Rachel // One Beautiful Life

      Oh, you’re awesome, Katie! Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, it has been a crazy 6 months – that would be putting it mildly ;-) I’m going to Blog Her + also the Pro Blogger event which is being held part of World Domination Summit in Portland. Are you going to either of these? xx

      • http://lovely-letters.com Lovely Letters

        I’m going to BlogHer as well! SO thrilled that it’s so close to home for me. I love that the Pro Blogger event is part of a World Domination Summit :) Such a clever summit name.

        • http://rachelgadiel.com/ Rachel // Nourish

          We definitely need to meet up then! Let’s chat :-) How exciting! xx

  • http://www.shaynjordan.com/ Shay

    Definitely needed to hear this today! Thanks for sharing that its okay to ditch the life plan :)

    • http://rachelgadiel.com/ Rachel // Nourish

      Glad it helped Shay! It’s definitely scary in the beginning but the pay-off is pretty amazing! xx

  • http://www.littlemisadventures.com Kendel @ Little Misadventures

    I really needed to read this! I’m still at the “get a degree” phase, but I’m moving to a new city and a lot of my essential things are still not set in stone. Those are such an amazing list of achievements! Go you!

  • http://writing-possibility.blogspot.co.uk/ Sophie Harrison

    “Let your faith be bigger than your fear” – that is just the most perfect philosophy! One of my favourite quotes (that I am guilty of using A LOT) is “a head full of fears has no space for dreams”.

    This was such a wonderful post, thank-you. i hope it’s okay for me to feature it in my “link love”? i know it’s from a while ago, but I really think others would benefit from reading!

    • http://rachelgadiel.com/ Rachel Gadiel

      Hey Sophie! Of course, thank you so much, that would be wonderful! Please send me the link so I can share it :-) Such a great quote isn’t it? I still refer to this one a lot! Have a beautiful day and thank you so much for stopping by xx